Ask Kari: How can I tell a guy I work with to leave me alone?

Dear Kari,

Help, a guy at my work will not stop pursuing me, even though I told him I was not interested in dating him. I have told him repeatedly that I would not date him, but he will not stop asking me to go out with him. What do you suggest I do?

I Want to be Left Alone

Dear I Want to be Left Alone,

It seems that you have used your voice and clearly told this man that you were not interested in dating him. I would take it to another level and speak with your manager/leadership at work and let them know that you need their intervention. It can and should be done in a professional manner, clearly establishing that he needs to end his behavior towards you immediately or risk the potential consequences of loss of employment/legal action.


As published in the March 2018 issue of Connections.


About Kari:

Kari O’Neill, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed independent clinical social worker and a resident of Issaquah Highlands.

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