My mother is 78 years old and lives on her own but is struggling. I talk with her daily, but I can see that she would do better in a more supportive setting like a senior apartment or an assisted living facility. My sisters also live close by, but they both have so much going on in their own lives that they ignore how she is really doing on her own. Also, my mom refuses to talk about the idea of moving to a new place that could add years to her life because she wouldn’t have to struggle with the stress of taking care of a home on her own. How can I get everyone to face the situation and take action?

My father’s wife recently passed away and he is all alone. I have not had much contact with him in the past 30 years. We only talk a few times each year, typically around a birthday/holiday. How much do you feel I should do to support him? I am torn from feeling like he needs to find his own way, and feeling guilty that he is an old man with no support. I am confused by his needs vs. what I am comfortable with. Help!