Ask Kari: Should I post the truth about my cheating brother-in-law on Facebook?

Dear Kari,

I am so frustrated with my brother-in-law. He posts God quotes on his Facebook page, yet is terrible to everyone he knows. He cheats on his taxes, his wife, and fleeces friends and family out of money. I am so tempted to blow him out of the water and post the truth about him on Facebook. Do you think I should?


Dear Tempted,

I do not recommend doing so unless you are willing to lose the relationship and ties with his family. I know that it can be hard to watch someone lie and cheat their way through life, but I do not suggest that you post the truth, your truth, unless you are willing to never see his family again. Instead, I recommend that you remove yourself from viewing his Facebook posts and save your energy and mind space from being harmed by him and the viewing of his actions. Focus on yourself, your good choices in life and move on.


As published in the April 2017 issue of Connections.


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Kari O’Neill, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed independent clinical social worker and a resident of Issaquah Highlands.

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