Ask Kari: How can I support my daughter after her best friend moves away?

Dear Kari,

Help, my daughter’s best friend since first grade is moving from Washington to California soon. My daughter has been moping around the house since she heard the news last month. They have been best friends for over ten years. How can I help support my daughter and prevent her from falling into a depression?

Concerned Momma Bear

Dear Concerned Momma Bear,

It sounds like your daughter is anticipating losing her main support system, which would make anyone sad and maybe slightly depressed. I recommend that you help her plan some special days with her friend prior to her moving and facilitate special memories for everyone. Also, spend some extra time with your daughter right now and after her friend moves, just hanging out watching movies, eating together, talking with each other, etc. Doing so will help your daughter feel connected to someone close after her friend moves, which is the best prescription to change and transition. And remember, simply that you noticed and are concerned about your daughter’s mood, demonstrates the bond that your already have with her. Good Luck!


As published in the March 2016 issue of Connections.


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Kari O’Neill, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed independent clinical social worker and a resident of Issaquah Highlands.

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