Ask Kari: What should I do after my married neighbor kissed me at a neighborhood cocktail party?

Dear Kari,

I was at a neighborhood cocktail party and my friend’s husband put his arms around me, grabbed my backside and tried to kiss me. I moved his hands off me and pushed him away, and then I left the room. I realized as I walked away that his wife saw the whole thing. Our kids play together, and now I feel uncomfortable around them. I don’t know if I should say anything to help move things forward or let it go. What do you think I should do?
Too Close For Comfort
Dear Too Close For Comfort,
I recommend that you let it go. Consider it a mistake that your friend’s husband made due to him either drinking too much alcohol that day or his misguided ideas about your interest in him. Either way, since you are neighbors and will see each other on a regular basis, one poor choice of action should be ignored. But, if it happens again, I would confront him about his actions and state that his inappropriate behavior will not being tolerated by you.


As published in the July 2013 issue of Connections.


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Kari O’Neill, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed independent clinical social worker and a resident of Issaquah Highlands.

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